Divorced men these days are not uncommon. No wonder - the way people think about the family and the need to preserve it changed dramatically. Divorce is no longer something out of the ordinary. Marriages break up all over the place, often for no apparent reason. Here and there here and there bachelors who already have experience of family life behind.
In society there is a perception - if a man is divorced, then something is wrong with him. Well, actually, he did agree to a woman on a break with her husband if he does not drink, do not walk, do not nudit not greedy and can earn? And if a man and more attractive in appearance and sexuality him everything is normal, and all! And here on you. Divorced. No, something is not, definitely. However, when the initiator of the divorce was himself, it is still possible to understand. But if the wife is suspicious ... obviously suspicious!
Meanwhile, the situation may be very different: the couple broke up because of the loss of interest in each other, because that is too rarely seen, from some domestic considerations ... But you never know! This is perfectly normal and appear divorced men who with good looks and potency okay. Needless to say that these representatives of the stronger sex immediately find themselves in the spotlight of the weak sex? Bach patronize, teteshkayut, to care for it, like a small child, his lure, taking on bail, promising to feed the delicious and satisfying. But he does not accept favors from women and prefer to eat dumplings shop. Why is that? Are there any features in dealing with divorced man?
Types of divorced men
In general, divorced men are of several types.
- Type first. Divorced man very pining for his ex-family. These bachelors are usually or completely closed in itself, and to reach them, or immediately rush to look for a woman who will be comforted, and forget about the past;
- Type the second. After a divorce, a man enjoys the freedom, and to be bound by long-term relationship with a woman is not going to;
- The third type. The man, after the collapse of the family no longer is going to marry. He was enough of former negative experiences, and the current bachelor took a firm decision to remain free until the end of his days;
- Type the fourth. This is a fairly rare type of divorced men who are completely dedicated to their future life the former family and children;
- Type fifth. Divorced man, lost his life after the collapse of family guidance;
- Type sixth. Bach, after a divorce to hate the whole female sex.
To marry a divorced man of the first type, if it is not hung up on my heart padlock, quite simply. Such a man without a woman can not conceive of himself. However, the Lady they need one that you can rely on at any moment. Female candidate as a wife must be prepared for the fact that it would be for her husband and the support, and a vest. And besides, it will have to try to excel in all of his previous wife. Otherwise faithful will often recall it. And frankly express their dissatisfaction with the fact that today his half inferior in quality former spouse.
With a bachelor of the second type of marriage is better initially not to dream. He can swim in their freedom for years, changing girlfriends almost every month. No, if he met a woman like it, of course, I will agree on a serious relationship with her. But it is likely to draw them officially hurry.
With the third type of divorced men, even for a long familiarity can hardly hope. Especially if a lady is good. From ocharovashek these beeches flee headlong. Because they understand - such peahen can make him forget about everything and eventually marry. But he was determined to be until the end of bobylёm. And no nails. Because "family life - it's a living hell, and continuous problems." Bear for someone responsible, this staunch householder does not intend to.
The fourth type of bachelors from close relationships with women, in principle, does not give up. Marriage, he is unlikely someone of them will issue officially, but cohabitation may agree. That's just the one that is going to be next to the devotees of the former family man should be considered if it is at least a hint of discontent expresses concern the faithful old family chores or disrespect for his past, it can just pack your bags. The situation is slightly different if there is a common child. But in this case it is a lot of time and money will be given to the first family.
Bachelors who have lost their life after divorce guidance, are quite common. I must say that with such men in the early stages can be quite difficult. Left without a family, they often begin to be applied to the bottle, or simply go racing, hanging out in a casino, and women changing almost every night. Someone is trying to forget, and someone loses a king in his head. That used to be the king's wife. Now the throne is empty, and manage the "kingdom" in the form of a bachelor no one. Who is, if desired, it is easy. It should be borne in mind - like a man without coordination of the helpless woman. And the ability to go racing.
Bachelors sixth type is extremely angry with former spouse and hate now the whole feminine. No, marry, they can. Sometimes even very willing to marry. In order to take revenge, and past and current wife for all their grievances and failures. I must say that life with such a subject, if it is not ottaёt with time, it is not honey. At best, he will find fault with every detail, the worst - ugly brawl with or without cause. Therefore, before deciding to tie the fate of such a woman-hater, you have to think twice.
Of course, there are divorced man, quite different from the types described. All the representatives of the strong half of humanity is different and each of them needs an individual approach. However, there are some general rules that better respect the women who are scratching their heads over how to marry his divorced man.
How to behave with divorced man?
Divorce - a very strong stress, leaving its mark in the soul for a long time. Sometimes men experience it even more painful than women. After the decay of the family man loses his wife and children. The usual way of his life collapses, burying under the ruins of all the familiar and dear. With a woman, the situation is somewhat different. As if she did not suffer after the divorce, the children usually have a number of which need to take care of. And it somehow distracts from black thoughts and partly compensates for the loss.
When meeting with a divorced man, this fact must certainly be taken into account. It is possible that family breakdown was for him a very strong blow to recover from that someone fails and lifelong learning. So start talking about the past marriage to be very careful. You should not once again reopen the wound and ask tactless questions. It is unlikely that they will get fair and impartial answer, even if after the divorce has already passed several years. At best man otmolchitsya.
If it really wants to know the truth about the disintegration of the family of the elect, it is better to turn to his friends and acquaintances. But in this case, the truth is difficult to determine. Firstly, they can judge the situation from their point of view. And secondly, someone else's family, as you know, the dark forest.
In the same case, if a man divorced itself begins to talk about his former family, it is advisable to just listen to it carefully. And draw conclusions about what is needed to this representative of the stronger sex to which he is committed and able to for a serious relationship in the future. Do not pay much attention to his complaints to his former spouse. It is likely that it is a defensive reaction to conflict with it. However, if the complaint does not stop, we must guard. It is possible that we are dealing with infantile whiner who all blames others for his failures.
Cheerleaders should when divorced man remembers little about the children, and not going to take part in their fate. It speaks of his excessive egoism and spiritual callousness. However, sometimes it is, and vice versa. The man loves his children and suffers from what seems to them often. But to discuss their feelings do not intend at all to anyone.
I must say that when a man is too much and enthusiastically talks about her daughter or son, it is also a moment of reflection. First of all, because the children have to take as their own, and because not every woman is capable of doing. Well, because they can cause the same family reunification. Whatever it was, but people who have children together, has become a kind family. Sometimes, having lived apart after the divorce, the spouses are aware of this and agree, starting to build a relationship in a new way.
Today, divorce often occur not because a man in something bad. Women have become more independent than before. Some of them at some point realize they do not need this man, and not particularly thinking, divorced him. However, this does not always happen. Most often, the family is still split due to the fact that the husband drunk, brawled, walked. If there is such a fact, we should not think that another woman might have something to fix. Chances are that one day everything will return to normal. While everything happens. If the deficiencies are not afraid of divorced men, and seem to be very significant advantages, why not try to build a lasting relationship with him? Perhaps the new wife will be able to do something that would not have been any other woman.